There are probably many of you who are in a season where you are pouring from an empty cup. This is a common phrase or term that has been around forever. My interpretation of “pouring from an empty cup” means you are giving more than what you have.
I am a yes person. I love to say yes to almost everything. Where are my enneagram number twos at? I want to do everything I can to help someone or give someone my all, but that (most of the time) backfires and leaves me feeling either unfulfilled or drained emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I have a hard time saying no (which is a boundary problem) truthfully because I love seeing others happy and I believe in helping others as much as I can. I have found for myself, that I need to work on saying no to things that I know can lead me to feeling drained. It is perfectly okay to set up boundaries for yourself which leads into the topic of the article – you cannot pour from an empty cup.
Think about it, you cannot give someone what you do not have. For example, you cannot love someone if you do not have or know love. If you recognize that you are not in a place to give right now, 1) that is perfectly normal and okay 2) switch your mindset to a filling stage. Essentially what I mean by “filling stage” is that if you recognize that you are empty and drained, fill yourself back up. An empty gas tank will get you nowhere. Fill yourself up with Jesus, the word, and his love. Take care of yourself. Find the time to do things that make you happy. It is so okay to be selfish sometimes. Your health is just as important as everyone else’s.
Here are some verses that I find to be super encouraging when I find myself needing to either take time for myself/ in a filling phase of my life:
May the God of hope fill you w/ all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow w/ hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13
For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edge sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow: it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account. Hebrews 4:12-13